i know that no one except family really reads my blog, and that's ok, cause they are the reason that i blog anyway. but, i need to get this out of my system.
all the drama with the duggars from 19 and counting, is getting old. one of the kids molested his sisters and a few other girls when they were younger. the duggars are upset that everyone is making such a big deal out of it. the girls have "moved on, and forgiven him." the dad is upset that the authorities released the records. their show was cancelled, and now they have to figure out how to live in the real world again.
the world holds a pretty dim view of child molesters, even if they were also children (as i don't know how old he was when it occurred). the type of "life" they have when imprisoned is not kind. and it doesn't matter if you are truly guilty or not, even the most violent murderer will still make your life "hell."
it's true that people make mistakes. but, when your mistakes affect the innocent, you are far from being free. even the Savior, in the scriptures said that any found harming a child would wish to be thrown into the sea with a rock tied around their necks, rather than have to face their eternal judgement at the last day. i also believe, that they can change. with work and conscious effort, they can move away from their sins, and no longer have that urge.
here's what really bothers me.
1. the girls have "moved on and forgiven him." that's awesome! i'm glad you've been able to put it behind you and forgive him. but, do you truly trust him with your children? would you state him as their guardian in your will in the event that something happened to you? considering whatever happened, are you really all that surprised that when it came to light, your "world" imploded?
2. that dad is upset. you can't tell me that you weren't livid when you discovered what he had been doing. you can't tell me that your heart didn't break for those little girls, two of whom were your own. you can't tell me that one of your first reactions wasn't the desire to throttle him. you can't tell me that you never had to wonder that he might do it again. (as a mother whose been there, you can't tell me that at least one of those didn't happen.)
he's mad at the authorities for releasing the records...welcome to the real world. where you have to pay your dues. just because you are a "celebrity" doesn't mean that you get out of the consequences.
he's mad that it disturbed his christian philosophy. you know what, it doesn't change what you believe, or what you try to put across to the world. all it shows is that you and your family are human. you struggle with "real-world" issues, and everything that comes with them. show the world that you are better than what is being portrayed right now. yes, he was young. yes, he was stupid. he paid his dues, great! but, that doesn't excuse his actions, or the fact that you tried to hide it. man up, take responsibility for what happened, don't sweep it under the rug and pretend it never occurred.
3. their show was cancelled. um, why? the kid made a mistake, he paid his dues. the family was trying to show the world what living life a christian was like. keep the show on, part of being christian is forgiving those that have wronged you, and moving on. i personally think that it would have "blown over" faster, had they been allowed to express and show how they have moved on. now all we get are little snippets from rag magazines (which are always accurate and completely to be believed), or what the media decides to invent.
welcome to the real world, duggars.
where people really do care about this kind of thing.
where people alienate those that are perpetrators, and, unfortunately, those that are victimized.
where this behavior is not tolerated, and those that try to hide it are also guilty.
i'm sorry that the past came back to bite you in the butt.
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